I have a stalker.
He is tall and muscular and
gloomy. He takes the very breath
from my lungs the moment I see him. It’s there, clutched in his first, seeping
through his fingers…dripping slowly to the ground until at last it’s gone. And I stand there unable to breathe… That’s part of my soul you just took away. Just
pulled from my chest like the strings of a marionette, tugging me toward
you and playing me for your amusement. When I’m frightened it makes me feel
like a little girl, longing to wrap my arms around mommy’s leg and feel its
strength and fearlessness. But sometimes, when I’m faking strong, I absolutely
do not care for these childish games. Now get out of my way now and let me pass. Let me pass or
I’ll…
He is always looming. He crouches
in the corner of my dreams. When I’m awake he steps out of shadows I don’t even
know are there. I feel his presence creep upon me like a bottle of ink spilt
across a piece of newsprint. It’s horrifying. Not just because I’m scared—because
I feel violated. Because this creepy
is inside me. Around me. Hovering. You know it’s changed the color of my skin?
I’m paler now than I used to be. Sickly. The circles around my eyes are darker,
more pronounced and my eyes have sunk… my skin feels draped over my bones,
leaving only a landscape of peaks and valleys with no discernable shape.
So much wreckage. This is my life. I never knew what a big word that was until now. I had cut
out the pattern and colored inside the lines. But I had no concept of how
enormous it was. That my body—this complex system of cells with weight and
depth, sprinkled with thought and senses to help it maneuver in the world—is
simply an emblem of life. A
representation, a translation, of my experiences. The child who absorbs life
like a sponge is only meant to grow up—not
out of her impermeability. I know
this to be true so why can’t I have it? Make room for it? The creepy prevents
me.
I have a vision that one day I will
be free. I am standing before an enormous window—in a castle above the clouds.
It’s covered with silk sheers and they billow into the room as the wind blows
and my hair flies and twists wildly around my head. I walk toward the window,
barefoot across a stone floor, deliberately, feeling the contour beneath my
feet. Heal, ball of foot, toes. I am grounded. The fluttering curtains assure
me that I am alone here and their translucency seems to offer the proof I need.
But I’ve been fooled before. I reach out to the window, harnessing the power of
the wind, and grab hold of curtains.
I rip them aside, my breath clamped down tight, veins flooding and
rising to the surface of my pale exterior. There is no one there. No shadow, no
image, nothing. I am alone.
Suddenly the deadbolt on my lungs
is undone …and my breath is released for the very first time. I exhale and
watch the dust covered cobwebs get carried away with the wind, swishing and
twirling and tumbling into oblivion. I gulp in clean, fresh air and it fills me
so completely that my feet are nearly lifted off the ground. I smile, the
muscles in my cheeks pleased to be of service once again and they remind me
with a biting sting that they have lay dormant far too long. Alone. My veins retreat beneath the
surface of my skin and my color begins to change. I hear myself laughing, a
familiar tune but a new melody. Suddenly everything is new. I’ve been reborn
and the woman is once again a sponge of innocence. No longer bound to a shadowy
figure in the corner of my mind. I am finally free.
But in the real world, I’m haunted
by a disease they say I no longer have. I take pills to stay awake and pills to
sleep because every time I close my eyes I encounter the stalker and I’m too
tired and too desperate and too weak to push past him into my dreams. I am
constantly afraid. I cannot listen to the radio, watch TV or read a magazine.
In the real world I feel stifled and stiff and I struggle to push on…
I want to pass…
…to where I am pourus and weighted
with my surroundings not my surrender. To tell my story to everyone and let
them be inspired. I want my life and I want to package it in delicate paper and
wrap it with purple ribbon and give it to my children. So that someday, much
sooner than I did, they will learn of the power that comes from within each of
us.
This is my life now. I can’t reclaim the old one. He will always be in
the shadows, lurking. I can’t make him leave any more than I can change the
color of the sky. I have no intention of embracing him or offering an olive
branch. No polite nods or awkward smiles when I feel his presence. If I am to
exist I have to accept that, and with that, him. I don’t need to like it—only
acknowledge that the pieces have a new shape; one with thicker skin and wider
eyes. Do you see me now? How do I
look from your perch on the porch, from beneath the umbrella in the rain?
Get out of my way and let me pass.
If you don’t, I keep walking. With you in tow if I must but I will not be
afraid and I will not be ruined. My window is waiting, and I will feel the
sweet release from my lungs. Because this is my life, not yours, and I will not
be held captive. Not anymore.